"If someone trust you blindly, don’t prove them blind" – Unknown
Do you have a best friend who you trust? Or maybe a spouse or family member who you consider a best friend? Let’s be real, not everyone actually has friends outside people to whom they are related. Maybe because they are very family oriented and don’t see the need to have friends or they have a huge family and cannot rationalize having additional friendships. Nevertheless, most of us have friends and at some point during the friendship trust is developed and often secured with some type of secret(s) that is being held by one or more parties in the group.
Trust is BIG
Trust is big, I mean BIG, and we all know that once it’s broken, that’s it. It can be put back together but it will never be the same. And for this reason, people today are cautious with who they trust. We often hear songs with lyrics that basically tells you to trust no one. But is that really possible? In a world where we are all dependent on one another; directly or indirectly, is it possible to not trust anyone? And should you ever trust someone who tells you to trust no one?
With all the problems that we face, the stress that we endure, don’t we actually need someone to digress, to vent, to confide in. I for one strongly believe that we do, I just feel that life would be incredibly difficult with no one to confide in. I know, I know! You’ve been let down many times. Myself as well, but, hear me out, you don’t have to tell everyone everything. As the saying goes, “sometimes you can’t let your right hand know what your left hand does.”
Who do you trust?
Trusting someone does not mean you just tell them your secrets, which for many of us are things we are hiding. Trusting someone also means you can confide in them with your struggles or your achievements. We all face struggles, some more than others. As a result, we need someone to comfort us during our down times without taking our backyard to the streets. Similarly, we need a trusted friend to boast about our accomplishments without them showing signs of envy, unhappiness or discouragement. Although achievements are good, we often don’t want everyone and their uncle to hear about it, simply because not everyone wants to see you do well.
Stop comparing
Furthermore, we live in a competitive world, everyone’s trying to one-up each other. Someone buys an expensive vacation, and you go and purchase a world tour, someone buys a big house and you purchase a mansion, and it never stops. Evidently, it’s very hard to trust someone who competes with you. Someone who is always trying to one-up you is not a good person to be friends with. Because when you have surpassed them, you will become a problem. Your friend should be happy for you no matter what. If you have friends that are happy for you when they are ahead of you; those are not your friends. And quite frankly, you should not confide in them. That’s is why it’s imperative that we choose our trustees/friends wisely. I can sort of understand why people don’t have a lot faith in each other anymore. But in the same breath, it’s difficult to carry on having no one to trust or rely on. The bottom line is don’t compare your lives to others. It will only make you bitter. And if you have a friend who constantly compare themselves to you, try to love them from a distance.
Let it stay in the Vault
Trusting someone takes a significant amount of time to establish. As a result, when someone in your life relative or non-relative has become comfortable in sharing their problems, things they are ashamed of, their happy moments; when they have developed that level of comfort with you, you should never NEVER let them down. And another thing, even if that person is no longer your friend, or you’ve fallen out of touch with your relative(s), try your very best to keep all their information in the vault. Too often, when the paths of friends or relatives no longer cross, the vault system becomes malfunctioned.
Finally, don’t trust a person that advise you to trust no one. Think about it for a minute, if someone tells you not to trust anyone, that “anyone” also includes them. Therefore, they are indirectly telling you not to trust them. These types of people are wolves in sheep’s clothing and they are using manipulative techniques to compel you to trust them. They accomplish this by making you feel like they are on your side. Confide in them and your business will be the word on the street. You can’t blame them though because they did advise you not to trust anyone.
Final Notes
So don’t be fooled, always read between the lines when someone speaks. Read true colours of people here to understand and decipher how people show their true colours unintentionally. My advice to you is whatever you want from others, you have to first display that behaviour; if you want trustworthiness, you have to be trustworthy, if you desire loyalty, you have to be loyal, start with the man in the mirror.
Furthermore, be that trusted friend, partner, relative that someone is looking for because truth be told, even if you are someone that like to reveal someone’s secret or information, you would not appreciate that being done to you. Trusting people is a risk and like any risk we take in life, the result will either be good or bad. And no one willingly takes a risk that they know will harm them. So if someone happens to trust you blindly, try your utmost best to not prove them blind. Until next time peeps, keep calm and blog on.
