“Have you ever stopped and realized that if you hadn’t met a certain person, your entire life would be completely different.”
This is so crazy. Do you know the type of life you would be living? I don’t think any of us do. We just know that it would be completely different. It’s most definitely food for thought though as so many things would be different; your spouse, your children – the way they look (lol) where you live, to some extent your friends and what you are actually doing right now. It’s a mind boggling thought. Nevertheless, we are humans and our ever-thinking minds are always…well…thinking.
How curious are you?
For some, this is borderline disloyalty and they will not entertain the mere thought of picturing themselves with another person. Have you thought about this though? Even if you are in a content relationship, have you ever thought of how different your life would be if you hadn’t married or weren’t with the person you are with right now? It could be someone you know, or don’t know (your imaginary love) The unknown is always intriguing and although we may never know the answer, curiosity still ponders and sometimes, curiosity acts.
When curiosity acts, it may be the reasoning behind the many affairs of the heart that occurs on a daily basis. Probably we should never allow our minds to go to such a place by virtue of the fact that we start desiring the grass on the other side of our fence (if the grass looks good anyways LOL. Because truth be told, my neighbours grass is actually a weapon if you step on it..LOL. I am literally speaking here, not figuratively. Just thought I would add this since I was pricked by it, (Shake My Head SMH)
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Sometimes it just doesn't work
Year after year, you hear about so many people divorcing, which is quite sad If I might add. Sometimes people are just not happy in their relationships. Maybe they are too busy wondering what it would be like with someone else. So leaving the relationship they are currently in is not an option but a must. That’s quite understandable because no one wants to stay in a marriage or relationship that’s not working. Second thought, who am I kidding, a lot of people stay in relationships that are not working. They stay so long that their persona unconsciously takes on new characteristics. For example, I know of someone who was in such a detrimental relationship that they themselves did not even realized the person they have become. This person has put up with so much crap that she became immune to the crap, to the point where she became a person she didn’t know she could become. She was a fierce, bad-ass (this actually means good) girl but due to circumstances has become docile and fearful. .
Different-bad or Different-good
Now your life could be different-bad or different-good (for lack of better words). The thing is we don’t know. And since some of us like to err on the side of caution, we may not want to find out what type of different it would be. Also if you are in a great relationship your mind may have never wondered as the above quote states. I feel like the person who came up with this quote was not satisfied with their life. Somehow, they were picturing themselves somewhere else and with someone else and boom, it happened. The quote came to him/her, “have you ever stopped and realized that if you hadn’t met a certain person, your entire life would be completely different.”
The never ending mystery
When you are unsatisfied sometimes, it leads you to start thinking how different your life might have been or could be. And It could be very different in terms of country, occupation, in-laws, etc… Did I say in-laws? Oh how we sometimes wish we could change them. Abracadabra, and just like that they are no more. LOL…Now, this completely different life that you are thinking of or hoping for does not always mean good. Funny enough though, when we get into our imagination, we basically never imagine things that may go wrong. It’s always perfect with no left turns. No wonder we often get let down. It’s good to look on the bright side and be optimistic but sometimes, I feel our imagination embellishes perfection and it’s from that embellishment that we often become disappointed as it’s too far out of reach. This is definitely food for thought though as this would actually be a mystery until you actually try it. But then again it’s a never-ending mystery since there will always be someone whom you haven’t met. It’s like that song that never ends. Remember signing that song? Here is a reminder of what it is.
Be that person
This can also happen with friendship. Friends can have major impact on our lives. Maybe you would’ve been the friend of a celebrity and who knows, wealth would encompass your residence and lifestyle. If you were the close friend of a celebrity or a very wealthy person, you would be certainly living a different lifestyle from the one you are in right now. Well, unless this is currently your situation. But rather than imagining what it would be like, why don’t you start working on ways that you can achieve great success so that someone can imaging being your friend? I believe that’s a better plan. Read one day or day one for more ways on how to start working on your goals.
Work on your relationships
Have you ever imagined being a part of a totally different family? Hmmm, cause at the end of the day, you can choose your friends, but family, naaah, you’re stuck with them, for life. The realization of what could be or could’ve been is endless as our ever-thinking minds takes us all over the globe and into people’s homes, hearts and even their beds without them ever knowing a thing. We do this and our relationships are there, probably failing or going downhill. And instead of imagining how we could fix it, we are instead imagining a way out. What about those who imagine but never act? Is it wrong at all for allowing our minds to ponder so freely about something that may never happen? Can we actually prevent this way of thinking?
The fact is, we need to be content with our relationships and keep it alive by doing whatever is necessary. If it’s not working and you’ve tried all you can, then maybe it’s time to kiss it goodbye. There is no perfect relationship. Here is a bit of advice I received from someone who clocked 34 years of marriage as of this date. “You will fight, you will make up and you will fight again.” For some odd reason, I just find this funny. Anyhow, if your relationship is working, work on it even harder so that it can flourish and withstand the test of time as well as the endless what-ifs of your imagination. Astrology is important too. Find out who you are compatible with here. So pepes, take care of yourselves and your relationships. Until next time, keep calm and blog on.
